Broken

Broken ... broken-hearted over demolished dreams ... about career, about family, about love. Bright, gleaming beginnings and middles suddenly change ... and the endings we expected and planned for are changed forever. This is the point where a lot of us get stuck.

Rather than address the broken mess, we push harder to progress.

Here is what I have learned through coaching people in all kinds of transition: we try to fix the situation by more and more DO-ing of ineffective actions! The doorway to change and new dreams is in asking completely different questions of our perceptions. If what you are doing does not work, do ANYTHING else! This is one of the key presuppositions of NLP Neuro-linguistic Programming.

You have been diligently posting on job boards: Monster, Career Builder, etc.
You have been telling everyone you know what kind of work you are looking for.
You have been hoping and praying to meet the right person to fill your life with joy, while being stuck in ruminating over the past.
And it's not working? The brokenness is not attracting a brighter future, right?

Now is the time to 'clean up the broken mess' and take charge in new ways. There are strategies and solutions. Let's chat and see how to get a handle on your situation.
Love and light,
Diane

Absolute Certainty

Today I heard a very successful entrepreneur say that when we know with "absolute certainty" that we can accomplish our goal, the battle with 'self' is won. A twinge of recognition hit me and I'm asking myself which has been leading my actions - doubt and hopefulness or absolute certainty? You guessed it ... doubt is a killer of committed and persistent action. Hesitation, lack of focus, getting ready vs. getting into action with absolute certainty that today I can make it happen.

There's my theme again - Take charge, have absolute certainty that even the smallest step in the right direction will win the day, and get moving!
Think about it.
Love and light,

Diane

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference. --Reinhold Niebuhr

As I coach wonderfully talented people in career transition, I find many are not able to maintain a sense of peace and courage as time away from work drags on. They are tormented by a sense of helplessness in their inability to control the situation and get back to full employment. I hear it ... "I should be able to make things happen." "It's not fair/right that I was laid off." "What are people thinking of me, still unemployed? They think I'm a loser." As long as they are holding these illusions, they are blind to opportunities and creativity.

I have learned a lot about myself through them. We live as if our perceptions are truth when many are illusions. Illusions all around us - the illusion of security, of self-importance, of one's ability to control the world. As I take charge and get moving, I am accepting that I can't control circumstances or other people. I can only do what I can do. I can accept my limitations and claim my strengths. My mantra is "What is ... is. What ain't ... ain't. What are my choices right now?"

Let go of illusions, clarify the vision, plan and implement strategy with persistence and patience. Take charge of what I can do and build up momentum.
It isn't easy, but it is simple when the illusions are dispelled.
Love and light,
Diane

"Character isn't something you were born with and can't change, like your fingerprints. It's something you weren't born with and must take responsibility for forming."

— Jim Rohn: Was an entrepreneur, author, and speakerHere is the question:

"How is my character showing up in my actions?" If there is something about my character that is less than I know it can be, I have a responsibility in this New Year to change that. Here's my realization - I can do better this year. I will do better this year. I've written it down and designed a strategy. I am accountable to myself to consciously take action and to give it my all.

Love and light,
Diane